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Happiness starts with you. YOU — Not your relationship, not your job, not your money, not your designer clothes, purses or shoes.
Since as soon as we were all able to comprehend things, we have been told that we need to step on life to reach our goals.
For example, get A+ and 90+ average to get into the best universities, then work hard to get good grades to make it through university. As soon as you have graduated, get a job, pay off your student loans, get married, buy a house with a white picket fence, have two kids, a dog, and as you progress up your career, go on luxury vacations, buy better and bigger cars, and houses. Do what the Joneses are doing or bigger and better. This list is endless. And it will never bring you happiness. Trust me, I know. I did this crap before and then figured out that this is not a happy life!
Our lives are brimming with negativity and cynicism, it’s easy to succumb to the dark side of the force (cue dramatic music). But fear not, for there exists a force far more potent, a weapon against the gloom and doom that threatens to engulf our psyche: positive thinking.
Yes, you heard it right, folks. The age-old adage “MIND OVER MATTER” isn’t just a catchy phrase your grandma used to throw around while knitting socks and sipping chamomile tea. It’s a bona fide life mantra, a guiding principle that can steer you through the stormy seas of existence and onto the sun-kissed shores of happiness and fulfillment.
Life has a knack for throwing curveballs, doesn't it? We barrel through, tackling challenges head-on, until suddenly, we hit a wall. For me, that wall was menopause. One minute, I was confidently navigating life's twists and turns, and the next, I was an emotional rollercoaster hurtling out of control. Add in a marriage that had run its course, and a relationship I never should have started because there were so many many red flags and warning bells but I chose to ignore them!
And then I found myself at a crossroads. It was time for a change — a change that began with rediscovering the lost art of self-care.
I used to think self-care meant indulging in occasional spa days or escaping on a weekend retreat. But as life unravelled, I realised it's the small, everyday moments that truly matter. So, armed with determination, I embarked on a journey to simplify self-care and find joy in the mundane.
Read more: Self-Care Simplified: Finding Joy in Everyday Moments
If you're feeling like happiness is always one step ahead of you, dancing just out of reach, there might be a sneaky reason behind it.
Believe it or not, we've all got this sneaky habit of depriving ourselves of the good stuff, like we're hoarding diamonds in the rough!
Read more: Unveiling the Fabulous Art of Self-Love A Fun-Fueled Journey to Embracing Your Needs
In a world where self-improvement is all the rage, we often find ourselves scrutinising every petal, every leaf of our being, trying to fix what we perceive as flaws. But wait, hold your watering can! What if I told you that the solution isn't to trim, tweak, or tear ourselves apart, but to nurture the environment in which we grow? Yep, it's time to take a leaf out of Mother Nature's book and learn a thing or two from the flowers.
Picture this: you've got a beautiful bloom sitting on your windowsill, but instead of flourishing, it's looking droopier than a soggy daisy in a downpour. Do you start plucking petals, yelling, "He loves me, he loves me not"? No! You check the environment. Is it getting enough sunlight? Is the soil just right? Maybe it needs a little more water or a good talking to (hey, plants respond to positive affirmations too. It’s why my garden grows so beautifully!).
Read more: The Blossoming Revolution: Why We Should Bloom Like Flowers
Hi, I'm Bhupi
I used to be in your shoes.
I know what it's like to be burned out, overwhelmed, and stressed out.
I relied on pizza and Netflix.
Trust me, YOU are not ALONE!
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