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Can we talk about willpower for a minute?
Specifically. The absolute mythology of it.
Because here's what we were all sold: if you want something badly enough, try hard enough, get up early enough, and commit firmly enough, you can discipline your way to any result you want. Just decide. Just commit. Just push through.
And for a while, in our twenties, maybe our early thirties, it kinda of worked. Or at least worked well enough that we kept believing it.
So, we applied it to everything. The diet. The fitness routine. The emotional healing. The career pivot. The relationship patterns we kept promising ourselves we'd change. We made the vision boards, joined the programmes, downloaded the apps, and told ourselves that this time we were going to be consistent enough, committed enough, disciplined enough to make it stick.
And then midlife arrived.
Read more: Why Willpower Stops Working in Midlife (And What Actually Does)
There's a particular kind of tired that has nothing to do with sleep.
You know the one. You've had eight hours. Maybe nine, if the universe was feeling generous. You wake up and think yep, still exhausted. Not sleepy-exhausted. Soul-exhausted. The kind that a lie-in, a holiday, or an aggressively green smoothie is absolutely not going to fix.
That's not tiredness, love. That's weight.
And most women arrive at midlife carrying a truly staggering amount of it. Without anyone ever telling them that's what it was. Without anyone ever giving them permission to put it down.
Let's be honest about something nobody warned us about.
They gave us the puberty talk. Possibly a Very Serious Leaflet with diagrams (I can’t remember but it brings emotions of embarrassment, I was very shy). They warned us about pregnancy, newborns, and the teenage years and God help every single one of us who survived those.
But MIDLIFE? Absolute crickets.
Ah yes. The age.
You mention that you're tired, or that you've been crying at dog food adverts, or that you absolutely cannot remember why you walked into this room and someone, bless their cotton socks, delivers those three magical words:
"It's your age."
Off they trot, enormously pleased with themselves, as if that explains everything and there's nothing more to discuss. Brilliant. Thank you. So helpful. Truly.
Now. To be fair. They're not entirely wrong.
Read more: Why Your Body Feels Different After 35 (And It's Not Just Hormones, My Friend)
Let me ask you something gently.
What if the reason you feel stuck, tired, overwhelmed, disconnected, or “not quite yourself” has nothing to do with
- Motivation
- Mindset
- or effort?
What if it isn’t because you’re doing something wrong?
Read more: What If the Thing Holding You Back Isn’t What You Think It Is?
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