You know that feeling when you look in the mirror, and you're like, "Ugh, I just can’t today"? Or when you catch yourself thinking, "I'm so not good enough for this"? Today, we're going to have a real talk about why you need to quit that nonsense right now.
Let me break it down for you: Whatever you believe about yourself on the inside is what you will manifest on the outside. Yes, darling, you heard that right. If you're walking around thinking you're a hot mess, guess what? Your life is going to reflect that hot mess energy right back at you. Think of it as the universe playing the world's most annoying game of copycat with your thoughts.
Your Thoughts are Powerful – Duh!
Now, I’ve written blogs, posts, tweets, and even the occasional dramatic journal entry about this very topic (links below). “Your thoughts are powerful,” I say, like the wise sage that I am. But seriously, whether you’re whispering sweet nothings to yourself or shouting your inner critic's insults from the rooftops (which, please don’t), those thoughts are creating your reality. So, if you keep telling yourself you're not good enough, surprise – your world will make sure to serve you a fresh, steaming plate of not-good-enough situations. Delicious, right?
But here’s the tea: it works both ways. If you start believing that you are the CEO of your life, that you have the power to turn things around, and that you deserve all the good stuff this universe has to offer – guess what? The universe is going to mirror that back to you too. It's like magic, but better, because it's real.
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The Mind-Mirror Connection
Okay, so let’s get into the science of this, or at least the sassy version of it. Think of your mind as a mirror. What you put in front of it is what it’s going to reflect. Stand in front of that mirror thinking, “Ugh, I’m so stressed and tired,” and voilà, your life is going to keep you stressed and tired. It's like holding up a sign to the universe that says, "Please give me more of this crap!" And guess what? The universe delivers because it’s really good at its job.
On the flip side, if you wake up in the morning and, instead of groaning about how early it is, you start the day with, “I am ready to conquer this day because I am fabulous and unstoppable!” then you’re setting yourself up to, well, conquer the day. Even if it’s just in small ways – like finally sending that email you’ve been dreading, or maybe just making it through the day without spilling coffee on your shirt. It’s the little wins that really count – TRUST ME ON THIS!
Why Complaining is a Trap
I get it. Sometimes life hands you lemons, and not the nice juicy ones either – more like the shriveled-up, “I forgot these in the back of the fridge” kind of lemons. But here’s the thing: Complaining about those lemons isn’t going to turn them into lemonade. In fact, it's more like adding salt to the wound. The more you complain, the more you focus on the negative, and the more negative stuff you attract. It’s like your complaints are a magnet for more crap. Who needs that?
So, instead of saying, “Ugh, everything is going wrong today,” try flipping the script. Say something like, “Well, that was annoying, but I’m handling it like a boss.” You see what I did there? I acknowledged the situation, but I didn’t let it control my narrative. And that’s the key – don’t let life’s hiccups define you. You define them with style, of course.
Now, before you think I’m telling you to bottle up your emotions, let’s get something straight: venting and complaining are two very different things. Venting is like taking the trash out – it’s necessary to clear out the junk and make room for something better. It’s healthy to let out what’s bothering you, but the key is to do it with the intention of releasing it, not wallowing in it. Vent, get it off your chest, and then let it go. Complaining, on the other hand, is like bringing the trash back inside and scattering it all over your living room. Not cute, and definitely not productive.
I have two ways of venting: Talking to my bestie and the other is brain dumping and yes, I wrote a blog about this because it’s a really important topic.
How to Flip the Script
Now, you might be wondering, “How the heck do I change the way I think when I’m so used to being my own worst critic?” First of all, stop that right now. You deserve better than a mental soundtrack of negativity. Here are some fun tips to help you start flipping that script:
Catch Yourself in the Act: When you notice a negative thought creeping in, call it out. Say, “Oh no, we’re not doing that today!” Seriously, talk back to those thoughts like you’re giving a sassy comeback to someone who just tried to steal your parking spot.
Turn It Around: Take that negative thought and flip it. Instead of, “I’m terrible at this,” try, “I’m learning, and I’m getting better every day.” Because guess what? You are.
Visualise the Positive: Spend a few minutes each day visualising what you want your life to look like. And I’m not talking about vague “I want to be happy” stuff. I’m talking about detailed, juicy visualisations. Imagine the feeling of achieving your goals, the joy of being surrounded by people who uplift you, the pride in knowing you’re living your best life. Make it so real in your mind that you can taste it.
Affirmations with Attitude: You know those cheesy affirmations I LOVE “I am enough”? Well, they work – if you say them like you mean it. But let’s take it up a notch. How about, “I am a badass who can handle anything that comes my way”? Now that’s an affirmation with some oomph! Here is a link to 50 I’ve created!
Surround Yourself with Positivity: If your social media feed is full of drama and negativity, it’s time for a detox. Unfollow, mute, or straight-up block anything or anyone that doesn’t lift you up. Your mind is precious real estate – don’t let just anyone build there.
Final Thoughts (and They Better Be Good Ones)
Listen, life is too short to be your own worst enemy. The way you talk to yourself matters, because those words and thoughts are shaping your reality every single day. So, why not make them fabulous?
Start believing in your own power, in your own potential, and watch as your world transforms to reflect that belief.
And remember, the universe is like your personal hype squad – it’s ready to back you up, but it’s only going to give you what you ask for. So, ask for the best, believe you deserve it, and get ready to watch your life glow up in ways you never imagined.
So go on, strut your stuff, manifest your dreams, and don’t forget to tell the universe, “I got this!”
Keep those thoughts fierce, and remember: The mirror only reflects what you show it. Make it something worth looking at!
