I Am a Magnet for Positivity (But Also… Let's Be Real)

“I am a magnet for positivity and good vibes.”

Sounds magical, right? Like I’ve cracked the code, sprinkled glitter on my chakras, and now manifest parking spaces and dream jobs while sipping oat milk lattes in my perfectly clean kitchen.

But let me tell you the truth.

Being a magnet for positivity isn’t a personality trait. It’s a practice. A choice. A daily, moment-by-moment, sometimes gritting-your-teeth-while-smiling-through-the-drama kinda thing.

Because every single moment is a choice.

Every thought you think, every word you speak, every snarky little comeback you craft in your mind while pretending to meditate… it’s all shaping your reality. Yup. That’s the truth! 

Thoughts Become Things (Even the Rude Ones) 

Let’s talk about this whole “thoughts become reality” thing.

You’ve probably heard it a hundred times by now, from me, on Pinterest boards, in yoga class, or from that friend who only drinks moon water and microdoses mushroom chocolate.

But here’s why it matters:

You are not just OBSERVING life. You’re CREATING it.

Your thoughts are like little workers laying bricks. If your thoughts are mostly:

• “Ugh, nothing ever works out for me,”
• “I can’t catch a break,”
• “Why is everyone else doing better than me?”

Guess what your little mental bricklayers are building? A lovely fortress of self-sabotage with a moat of bitterness and an alligator called COMPARISON.

BUT if your thoughts start looking like:

• “I always figure things out,”
• “Good things are coming my way,”
• “I am open to receiving all the magic the universe has in store,”

Suddenly, the vibe SHIFTS. Your reality starts to reflect that inner CONFIDENCE. Doors OPEN. Emails PING. Ideas LAND. COINCIDENCES happen.

No, it’s not instant. But like compound interest, those positive thoughts add up, and trust me, they’re more powerful than caffeine (and I love caffeine).

Every Moment Is a Fork in the Road (Yes, Even at Tesco)

You’re at the checkout. The card machine’s not working. You’re tired. The person in front of you is arguing about a 50p discount on onions. You feel your vibe dip. The irritation rises.

This is a fork in the road moment. You could:

• Internally scream and declare the world against you.
• Take a breath, chuckle to yourself, and remind yourself it’s just a moment, not a life sentence.

These tiny choices? They stack.

They’re like invisible votes for the version of you that you’re becoming. Are you voting for PEACEFUL You or FRAZZLED You?

EMPOWERED You or MARTYR You?

The choice is yours, every second of every day.

If You Focus on the Hurt… 

Let’s go deeper here, because sometimes the choice isn’t between slightly annoyed and slightly amused, it’s between staying STUCK in pain or using it to RISE.

If you FOCUS on the HURT, you will continue to SUFFER.

If you FOCUS on the LESSON, you will continue to GROW.

This isn’t about dismissing pain or trauma. It’s about not letting it DEFINE your FUTURE.

I wrote about this in my blog, Letting Go of Anger, where I unpack the stories we cling to like war medals, proof that we’ve been wronged, betrayed, abandoned. And yes, we have been. But holding onto that pain? It's like drinking poison and expecting the other person to get sick.

When we keep re-reading the same painful chapter, we never get to finish the book.

When we replay the betrayal or the failure or the heartbreak, we trap ourselves in a loop of “what they did to me” instead of “what I did next.”

Choosing to grow doesn’t mean it didn’t hurt. It means the hurt doesn’t get to have the final word.

It means stepping into your power and asking:

• What is this teaching me?
• How is this shaping me into who I’m meant to become?
• What version of me is emerging from this fire?

Now that’s MAGNETIC.

Positivity Doesn't Mean Perfection 

Let’s just clear something up. Being positive doesn’t mean pretending everything is fine when your life feels like a fire in a hurricane.

Being positive means choosing your response even when life’s being an absolute B___H

You’re allowed to feel your feelings. Rage. Cry. Throw your slipper at the sofa.

But then… you get to CHOOSE.

Do you stay there, marinating in the anger like a spicy kebab? Or do you shift?

In Rewrite Your Story, Even If You're Still In It, I shared how important it is to stop waiting for the perfect ending before deciding to be happy. Life is happening now, not when everyone apologises or the bank balance hits a magical number.

So why not write the plot twist today?

Rewriting the Story (Yes, Yours) 

In the blog Avoidance and Getting Out of Your Comfort Zone, I explored how we stay small, repeating the same narratives because they feel familiar, even if they’re painful.

If you’ve been telling yourself, “I always mess things up,” or “I’m not good enough,” then guess what you’ll keep manifesting?

LIFE LISTENS. It RESPONDS. It doesn’t know you’re joking when you say, “I’m such a mess.”

It just takes your words and STARTS painting the canvas accordingly.

So let’s flip the script.

Try saying:

• “I’m learning as I go.”
• “I’m proud of how far I’ve come.”
• “I attract the people, experiences, and opportunities that help me grow.”

You’re the author of your story, my friend`. So DON’T hand the pen to your past, your ex, or your inner critic. Grab it back. Doodle some stars on the margins while you’re at it.

Our Words Hold Power (So Stop Cursing Your Life) 

You know that voice in your head narrating your day?

The one that says things like “God, I look awful today” or “I’ll never get this right”?

Well, that voice is POWERFUL. It’s your SPELLCASTER.

In Don’t Start Your Day withYesterday's Sh*t, I said it loud and clear: don’t drag yesterday’s drama into today’s sunshine.

Same goes for your inner monologue. It’s casting spells on your reality 24/7.

Let’s clean it up.

Instead of:

• “I’m broke.” → Try: “I’m open to money flowing to me in unexpected ways.”

• “I’m so unlucky.” → Try: “Things are shifting in my favour, even when I can’t see it yet.”

• “People always leave.” → Try: “I’m attracting soul-aligned connections who stay, grow, and glow with me.”

Because honestly? You are a magnet. And the universe is like Amazon Prime, it’s always delivering based on your recent SEARCHES (aka thoughts).

Choose Wisely. Not Just Occasionally. 

We’re great at being positive when things are going well. Sunshine, payday, unexpected compliments, easy to feel aligned then.

But what about on those days?

You know the ones:

• Your jeans don’t fit.

• Your child (or ex, or boss, or all three) is testing your last nerve.

• Your to-do list is laughing at you.

• Mercury is retrograde, your period is early, and your hair has decided to boycott shampoo.

 That’s when it counts.

Positivity isn’t a trend. It’s not just a cute quote for your Instagram grid. It’s an inner muscle.

Flex it often. Especially when it’s hard. That’s when you build the strongest version of you.

Affirmations That Work (Even When You’re Not Feeling It) 

Here are some affirmations I use when I feel myself slipping into Doom Mode:

• “Everything is working out for my highest good, even if I can’t see how yet.”
• “I get to choose how I respond to this.”
• “I’m a magnet for magic, miracles, and Monday-morning miracles.”
• “I am enough. I’ve always been enough.”
• “My thoughts are powerful, and I use them wisely.”

 Say them. Write them. Shout them in the shower if you must. (Your shampoo won’t judge.) And here are some more

Real Talk: You’re Allowed to Start Again 

Messed up? Snapped at someone? Forgot your affirmations and rage-texted your ex?

Cool. You’re human.

But every MOMENT gives you a fresh CHANCE.

A MINI-RESTART button.

Don’t start your day with the broken pieces of yesterday.

CLEAN the slate.

LIGHT a candle.

DANCE to Beyoncé.

Do what you’ve got to do to come back to your POWER.

Recap: Be the Magnet. Be the Chooser. Be the Creator

Here’s the magic formula:

• You are a magnet for positivity and good vibes.
• Your thoughts and words are sculpting your future.
• Every single moment is a choice.

So, choose:

• LOVE over fear
• HOPE over despair
• PRESENCE over panic
• GROWTH over gossip
• PEACE over pettiness

You don’t have to get it perfect. Just get it going.

Remember: the life you want is built on the tiny choices you make when no one’s watching.

So today… Choose LIGHT. Choose JOY. Choose YOU.

And if that fails, choose CAKE. Then choose AGAIN.