Menopause is, to put it plainly, a really shitty experience. I know, I know, you probably didn’t expect me to be so forthright about the reality of menopause, but trust you’ll always get the truth from me. Menopause can feel like it’s taking the living life out of you!
For me, experiencing menopause (and all its glorious symptoms), was like having a bullet in my head. I remember getting ready, putting on clothes I love in the style I like to wear them. Applying makeup in the way only a confident woman with years of experience can–with effortless, perfected ease. Feeling clean, self-assured, and confident that I was going to take on the world that very day. Entering my workday with poise and intention, tackling my list of to-dos, and leading that morning’s batch of meetings.
Enter stage right: the most blaring hot flashes you’ve ever encountered. A hot heat starting in my gut rises and echoes into my neck, face, and ears. Suddenly, I’m gasping for a breeze and tugging at my newly tight clothes. They now lay uncomfortably on my clammy, moist skin. I’m profusely sweating underneath my blouse, and my socks are soaked. When I find my eyes in the closest mirror, I’m horrified by the flushed, bewildered look that has taken over my face. The meetings that follow feel stunted by the weight of my self-consciousness. Surely, everyone around me can tell I was losing my mind that very minute!
Now that I’m removed from that experience, I can laugh. But the gravity of how rattling those times were hasn’t left me, and that’s why I feel so passionate about helping you make it through. If you’re one of the few who didn’t experience negative symptoms associated with menopause, first and foremost–you lucky bitch! While you can still gain benefit from this information, I’m speaking to the ladies who had a hard go of it like I did.
How to get your self-confidence back after menopause
Menopause takes a toll on your self-confidence, self-esteem, and overall well-being. But there are ways you can take your power back. Here are just a few!
- Know you are not alone. The first thing you must remember is you are not alone. While this is an uncomfortable time, it’s a rite of passage as a woman, and billions of women before you have been through it. Also, I am personally committed to being there for you each step of the way.
- Find ways to care for yourself. Cotton and linen are your friends. So is a portable fan! Plus, wearing layers is a godsend when you’re in the throes of hot flashes.
- Maintain connections. The last thing you want to do is isolate yourself from your community. Stay connected to your friends and reach out when you need support.
- Move your body, with exercise or sex! Yes, I said it. Having an active sex life is important to prioritize during menopause. If that’s not in the cards for you (no judgment here!), a consistent routine that helps you move your body will do (whether it’s a regular workout routine, or you simply introduce morning walks or sunset bike rides).
Need a little more help getting through it?
I’m so glad you asked. Not only have I experienced menopause and lived to tell the tale, but I’ve also thrived in my post-menopausal life. I am an experienced happiness and self-confidence coach and would love to chat with you about how I can help you gain back your self-confidence so you can continue to do amazing things in the world. Interested? Hell yeah! Book a session with me today.
