Okay, I admit it.
All my life, I've been a bit of a scaredy-cat.
I was always the one who was afraid of the dark, of heights, and of public speaking. I've always had anxious tendencies and was always a little nervous about putting myself out into the world.
Okay, I admit it.
All my life, I've been a bit of a scaredy-cat.
I was always the one who was afraid of the dark, of heights, and of public speaking. I've always had anxious tendencies and was always a little nervous about putting myself out into the world.
This, coupled with a bit of past relationship trauma, some shitty situations with 'friends,' and just general life stressors, has led me to a place where I'm constantly second-guessing myself.
I'll have an idea for something - whether it's starting my own business, going back to school, or even just reaching out to someone I want to connect with - and instead of getting excited about it and taking action, I'll start to talk myself out of it.
I'll come up with all sorts of reasons why it's a bad idea, why I'm not good enough, or how it will probably fail. And instead of putting my energy into making it happen, I'll spend hours upon hours stressing out about it and talking myself out of it.
Does any of this sound familiar to you? If so, don't worry. You're not alone! We've all been there at some point or another in our lives. But, over the years, I've found a way to overcome these restrictive feelings. You might need to find your own way and figure out what works for you, but you can use this as your foundation.
Why Are You Afraid?
We're afraid of failure.
We're so scared of not being good enough, and we're afraid of what other people will think or say. It doesn't matter what we're trying to do or what walk of life we're on, it's easy to fall into the trap of thinking about the worst-case scenario.
Say you want to write a book. You could feel like it's your life's purpose to bleed onto the page, but you don't write because you're scared of people leaving you bad reviews or not liking what you have to say.
So you write nothing.
But, here's the thing...
You are going to fail.
Throughout your life, you're going to make mistakes. You already have. Plenty of times, I'm sure. And people talk about you behind your back (or, sometimes, right to your face).
That's just the way life is!
And since we can't do anything about that, how about you start embracing it?
Instead of letting that stop you from doing what you want or reaching for your dreams, use it as motivation.
If you want, use it as a reason to prove everyone wrong.
Most importantly, don't take any of this personally! I
If someone says something about you, it's not about you as a person; it's about them and their own insecurities and fears. It's a projection of how they feel about themselves because it's what they notice.
If someone makes a comment on your weight, for example, it's not about you. They only see it because they're anxious about their own physical body, and they see it as a flaw.
So, don't let their negativity bring you down or hinder your success.
The thing is, at the end of the day, this is your one life.
Your only chance. If you don't live your purpose, it's nobody's fault but your own. Yes, it's hard.
Yes, it's scary. But it's so worth it!
What I'm trying to get at is that you can't let fear get in your way.
Look around your life as I've been looking at mine. There are so many people who have all these big dreams and want to live this amazing life in the way they want to live it, but they don't. They stop themselves out of fear of it not working out.
And so they manifest that reality and it never happens because they never do anything about it.
It's so FUCKING SAD!
Use this as your wake-up call.
Don't let your fears stop you from being who you're meant to be or doing what you're meant to do.
You are strong, smart, and talented enough to make your dreams a reality. And even if you're not right now, you're on the path to learning what you need to know, so go out there and do it!
Keep Moving Forward
The only way to achieve your goals and reach your full potential is to keep moving forward, even when you're afraid.
Start small if you need to. Set a goal for yourself and take baby steps until you build up the courage to go after what you really want. But, whatever you do, don't give up!
You are capable of great things, and you deserve to live a life that you're proud of. So, go out there and make it happen! Don't let anything - or anyone (especially yourself)- stop you from being the best version of yourself possible. You got this! :)
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