Leaving a marriage is never going to be an easy choice to make. It's probably one of the biggest decisions you will ever make!
It's a big decision that will affect you, your spouse, and any children involved. It takes a lot of strength and courage to walk away from something that you have invested so much time and energy into. But sometimes, it is the only way to find true freedom.
Leaving a marriage is never going to be an easy choice to make. It's probably one of the biggest decisions you will ever make!
It's a big decision that will affect you, your spouse, and any children involved. It takes a lot of strength and courage to walk away from something that you have invested so much time and energy into. But sometimes, it is the only way to find true freedom.
I left my marriage because I was no longer happy. Menopause taught me so much!
It took a while and wasn't just a decision made at one moment in time but a build-up of events that led to the outcome. I realized that I deserved to be happy and that I needed to make a change in my life.
Trust me, it's not been easy, but it has been worth it. The saying the grass is greener on the other side - mine is definitely lucious!
I am now happier than I have ever been, and I am finally living my life on my own terms. If you are considering leaving your marriage, know that you are not alone. It is a big decision, but it is one that you can make.
Be strong, be brave, and most importantly, be true to yourself. You deserve to be happy too.
Going Against Culture
Leaving a marriage certainly comes with the issue of overstepping cultural boundaries. Yup - being Indian, it's a big deal. Everyone has their 2 cents to share but only you know what's right for you.
For so long, marriage has been seen as this unbreakable vow between two people. But that's simply not the case anymore. People realize that they don't have to stay in an unhappy or toxic relationship just because society tells them to. And that is a beautiful thing.
You should never stay in a situation that makes you unhappy, no matter what anyone else says. Do what is right for you and your life, not what others expect of you. You deserve to be happy and to live a life that is authentic to you.
Putting Yourself Before Others
While talking about culture, our modern culture teaches us to put others before ourselves.
We're told that it's selfish to think of our own needs and wants before those of others. But the truth is, you cannot pour from an empty cup. You must take care of yourself first and foremost before genuinely taking care of anyone else.
Leaving my marriage was one of the most selfish things I have ever done. But it was also one of the best decisions I have ever made. Because by putting myself first, I can finally be the best version of myself. And that is something that I can share with others.
It's being selfish in the best way.
If I'm not happy, I can't make those around me happy. So by taking care of myself and ensuring that my needs are met, I am actually serving others.
You deserve to put yourself first, too. It's not selfish to do what is best for you. It is actually one of the most selfless things you can do.
If you are considering leaving your marriage, know that you are not alone. It is a big decision, but it is one that you can make. Be strong, be brave, and most importantly, be true to yourself. You deserve to be happy too.
Yes, Marriage is Work
Love is work. It's a choice. I understand that, and it's an excuse, so many people state it as their reason for sticking with a failing marriage.
I don't buy that.
We work at things we love.
Our job, our hobby, and if it's something we're passionate about, there is no issue with putting in the extra time to make it work. Love should be the same way. There's a line where you go past putting in the work, and you're just in an endless loop of pain and unhappiness.
I was in an unhappy marriage, and no matter how much work I put into it, things never got better. It was the same old shit over and over again. He didn't believe in vacations or travelling, spending time with the kids in a different environment other than watching TV and movies, didn't want to go for walks or hikes. Those are all the things I was passionate about and he wasn't.
I realized that the only person who could save me was myself. So that's what I did. I left. And it was the best decision I ever made.
Planning to Leave a Marriage
If you're considering leaving your marriage, you should do a few things first.
First and foremost, you need to be sure that this is what you want. Leaving a marriage is a big decision, and it should not be made lightly. If you're on the fence about it, take some time to think about it. Consider speaking to a therapist or counselor to help you sort out your thoughts and feelings.
Secondly, you need to make sure that you're financially prepared to leave. This means having a steady income and a place to live. If you don't have these things lined up, now is the time to start working on them.
Lastly, you need to make sure that you have a support system in place. This could be friends, family, or even a therapist. Whoever it is, make sure that you have someone to lean on during this difficult time.
Leaving a marriage is a big decision, but it's one that you can make. Be strong, be brave, and most importantly, be true to yourself. You deserve to be happy too.
If you're considering leaving your marriage, know that you are not alone. It's a big decision, but it is one that you can make.
Be strong, be brave, and most importantly, be true to yourself.
Discovering Happiness
At the end of all this, this journey is about one thing.
Happiness.
Or, more accurately, the freedom to be happy.
There are endless reasons why you could want to leave a marriage, and while the stigma exists that you should keep working to make it work, the truth is that you don't have to stay in a toxic, hurtful, or downright abusive relationship.
You deserve to be happy and to be able to live the life you want to live.
A life where you're free.
As a happiness coach, this is my main focus, and if you're unsure of any part of your journey, where to turn, or what options are available, I'm here to help. Together, we can find out where you're at, what direction you want to head in, and how to take steps to get there.
Through my courses (you can check out my new four-week Getting out of your comfort zone course here!) or 1-2-1 consultations, get in touch with me together, and let's begin your adventure towards a happier, healthier you!
