Are You Amazing at Giving But Terrible at Receiving?

It's why your body shuts down support. 

You’re probably the woman who sorts everything; the plans, the people, the emotions, the last-minute panics, and the never-ending life admin.

You give like it’s your full-time job. You fix things before anyone even realises there’s a problem.

But when it’s your turn to receive?

A compliment, a helping hand, rest, love, money, reassurance, comfort your whole system goes stiff like:

“No thank you, I’m okay. I insist. Put that kindness away.”

And meanwhile, inside?

A tiny voice is whispering, “Actually, I’m absolutely and completely exhausted.” 

Why Receiving Feels So Uncomfortable

Let’s name the truth:

You’re not bad at receiving.

You were never taught how (that’s like most of us)

Most of us grew up learning:

• “Be good.”
• “Don’t need anything.”
• “Don’t trouble anyone.”
• “Handle it yourself.”
• “Strong girls don’t ask for help.”

So, ofcourse receiving feels so foreign, it’s like learning a brand new language you’ve never listened to or heard before.

Your body literally learned that:

“It’s safer to cope alone.”

If support wasn’t modelled as safe, your nervous system didn’t store it as safe. And now, even as an adult, when someone offers you genuine care, your body reacts like:

“Warning. Unknown experience. Decline immediately.”

Your mind might want connection, softness, help, and ease BUT your body is still running an old survival code.

That’s NOT your fault.

And it’s NOT a flaw.

It’s a learned pattern  and patterns can change.

Your Body Isn’t the Problem

• Let’s take the SHAME out of this:
• You’re not too INDEPENDENT.
• You’re not DIFFICULT.
• You’re not EMOTIONALLY blocked.

Your body simply learned that giving is safe and receiving is a risk.

It PROTECTED you when you needed ARMOUR.

It SHIELDED you when you didn’t have emotional SUPPORT.

It kept you going when life DEMANDED strength.

Your nervous system wasn’t WRONG, it was LOYAL.

But that armour you built to survive?

It’s NOW blocking the LOVE, REST and SUPPORT you deserve to RECEIVE.

And your body is TIRED of being the strong one all the time.

The Shift Begins With Awareness

Once you understand that your body is not resisting help out of stubbornness, it’s resisting because it learned that receiving once felt unsafe, everything CHANGES.

Instead of judging yourself (“why am I like this?!”), you begin asking:

• “What did my body need back then?”
• “What does my body need now?”
• “How can I teach my system a new way?”

This is where healing begins, in curiosity, not criticism.

How (EBI) Re-trains Your Receiving Blueprint

EBI doesn’t push you to open up.

It doesn’t force healing.

It doesn’t try to override your nervous system.

It simply helps you listen gently and safely to the messages your body already knows.

With tools like:

• muscle testing
• emotional frequency mapping
• energy awareness

EBI lets your body speak its truth, not the story your mind made up to cope.

EBI helps you:

• Identify where your energy is still armouring
• Release trapped emotional frequencies of fear, shame, or over-responsibility
• Teach your nervous system that softness is safe
• Re-train your body to receive without guilt, panic, or shutdown

When your body feels safe, receiving stops feeling like danger and starts feeling like relief.

A 60-Second EBI Reset: The “Receiving Breath”

Let’s do this together.

It’s simple, but incredibly powerful.

• Place one hand on your heart and one on your lower belly.
  Feel your warmth. Feel your presence.

• Inhale gently for 4 counts.
  Imagine breathing in support, love, and softness.

• Exhale for 6 counts.
  Release the armour, tension, and “I’m fine.”

• Whisper:
  “It’s safe for me to receive.”

Your energy shifts when your body feels safety. Even 1% openness begins re-wiring old patterns.

Why This Matters, Especially Right Now

As we move through the holidays, the end-of-year chaos can activate old patterns:

• Over-giving
• Doing everything alone
• Emotional caretaking
• Performing strength
• Shrinking your needs
• Pretending you’re okay when you’re not

This time?

• Let’s not do survival mode.
• Let’s do conscious receiving.
• Let one thing be easier.
• Let one offer land.
• Let one moment of support actually be felt.

Your body learns through EXPERIENCE.

• Not pressure.
• Not logic.
• Not forcing.

Just gentle, repeated moments of safety.

A Personal Story

I used to be exactly like you.

I didn’t know how to receive; not compliments, not help, not softness, not love.

If someone tried to support me, my whole body tensed.

• I didn’t trust it.
• I didn’t know what to do with it.
• I just kept giving, giving, giving until my body had nothing left.

EBI changed my life.

Using muscle testing, my body told me things I never slowed down to hear.

I needed:

•  Rest
• Water
• Stillness
• Space
• Boundaries
• And this one surprisined me the most: JOY.

When I finally received these things, my whole energy changed.

I SOFTENED.

I OPENED.

I HEALED.

You can too.

If This Hit You in the Heart, Come To My FREE Workshop This Saturday

If your chest feels tight reading this

If your eyes got a little watery

If part of you whispered, “I want that”

Then this workshop is for YOU.

FREE Online Workshop: Energetic Body Intelligence

Date: Saturday 22 November

Time: 3:00 PM UK, 10:00 AM EST

In this 90-minute session, we’ll explore:

• Why your body blocks receiving
• How trapped emotional energy affects your life
• A simple muscle testing tool to get yes/no answers forever
• How to open your energy to support, love, and abundance
• How to feel safe in your body again

This isn’t mindset work.

This is body work, gentle, powerful, and deeply liberating.

Your body deserves support.

And so do YOU.

Click here to register for free

Final Thought

• You are not “too independent.”
• You are not “too emotional.”
• You are not “too much.”

You are a woman who adapted to survive.

AND NOW?

You’re ready to learn how to receive enough to finally thrive.

Your next chapter begins with one truth:

“It’s safe for me to receive.”