Hello, my beautiful friend!
So, you’ve been ghosted? Oh, honey, pull up a chair, grab a cuppa (or a cheeky glass of wine), and let’s dissect this absurd little phenomenon with the level of sass and wisdom it deserves
Ghosting Hurts, and You’re Not Alone
First things first, if you’ve ever been ghosted, trust me, you’re in excellent company. It’s happened to the best of us—yes, even to me, the queen of moving-on-with-grace-but-also-a-bit-of-spite. And let’s be clear, the first reaction is always, What the actual hell? Did I say something? Did I accidentally offend them? Did they get abducted by aliens? Nope, my love. It’s not you, it’s them. Ghosting isn’t a reflection of your worth—it’s a reflection of their inability to handle basic human interactions.
Exhibit A: The Case of ViK
Now, let me regale you with a little tale. Picture it: last year, out of nowhere, an old flame from my early 20s—let’s call him ViK—slid into my Facebook Messenger like a long-lost treasure map.
Was I surprised? Yes. Was I intrigued? Of course. Was I about to go down a nostalgic rabbit hole? You bet.
ViK contacted me because his dad had passed away. He wanted to reconnect with everyone that his father had connected with. He was a good, kind, gentle soul.
We ended up chatting for three hours. And honestly? It was lovely. He was still the kind, generous, and wonderful man I remembered. He shared his poetry (which was, I must admit, rather beautiful), told me about his passion for motorbikes, and even expressed an interest in coaching, which I was more than happy to provide. Things seemed genuine, like a little reconnection of old souls.
Feeling rather pleased with this rekindled friendship, I decided to surprise him with a handmade card, sent to his business address. Because, well, that’s just the kind of thoughtful legend I am. Maybe that was too much? Who knows! It was just a nice gesture, no carrier pigeons proclaiming undying love involved.
But then... he vanished. Poof! Like a magician’s assistant in a dodgy Las Vegas show. One minute we were reconnecting, the next? Radio silence.
And it wasn’t just me — two trainees I found for him also never heard from him again. Apparently, there was some family stuff happening, but let’s be real, a simple message saying, “Hey, I need a little space” would have sufficed. But no, the man opted for the Houdini act instead.
Was I pining for him? No. I was happy to reconnect with an old friend who I had loved at one point in my life. I admired him for his resilience and efforts to create a successful business. His dedication was unbelievable. He always put his family first and that is something very beautiful because not everyone does.
Now you know I believe everything always happens for a reason. We were meant to touch base, reconnect, have a few laughs and it’s as simple as that!
The Emotional Whiplash of Ghosting
Was it hurtful? Absolutely. Because ghosting leaves you in limbo with no closure. It’s like being in the middle of a gripping TV series, only to find out the network cancelled it before the finale. No answers, no resolution—just you, staring at the metaphorical blank screen, wondering what the hell just happened.
For a brief moment, I started questioning myself. Did I do something wrong? Should I have not sent the card? Was my enthusiasm too much?
But then I stopped. Because, my dear, the golden rule of ghosting is this: It is never about you. It is always about them.
Why Do People Ghost?
Ah, the age-old question. Let’s break it down:
- They’re cowards. There, I said it. It takes guts to say, “Hey, I’m not feeling this anymore” or “I need space.” Ghosting is the easy (and frankly, spineless) way out.
- They live in fear. Fear of confrontation. Fear of emotions. Fear of looking like the bad guy/woman. Ironically, ghosting is the ultimate bad guy move, but logic isn’t always their strong suit.
- They avoid negativity. Some people would rather pretend you don’t exist than deal with the emotional discomfort of an honest conversation.
- They think you won’t care. This one is a real kicker. Ghosters often assume that since they don’t feel deeply invested, neither do you. (Spoiler alert: they’re wrong.)
- They believe silence is better than explanation. To which I say: NO. A polite “I don’t think this is working” will always be better than a disappearing act.
Dating Apps: A Breeding Ground for Ghosters and Worse
And then, of course, we have dating apps — the digital jungle where ghosting is practically a sport. Now, don’t get me wrong, there are some genuinely lovely people out there looking for real connections. But then, oh sweet mercy, come the low-lifes.
First, you have the ones looking for a one-night stand. No shame in a casual fling, but at least be honest about it!
Then, there are the ones who just want to be seen with a beautiful woman or man on their arm to impress their mates. (Yawn.)
Then it gets even scummier—those looking to cheat on their partners while feeding you sob stories about how they’re totally in the middle of a separation, really unhappy, blah, blah, blah! (They’re not. It’s all lies.)
And at the bottom of the barrel? The predators. The ones who manipulate, sweet-talk, and scam their way into vulnerable people’s lives, only to strip them of their time, emotions, and in some cases, their worldly possessions. I’ve seen it happen to the best of us. They lurk in every corner of the world, preying on kindness and trust.
I have been at the other end of every single one of these scenarios, so I know exactly what it feels like when someone is trying to con you in every way they can!
So, my friend, when it comes to dating apps, keep your wits about you and your standards high.
How to Handle Ghosting Like a Boss
Listen gorgeous, you do not want people like this in your life. No one who genuinely values you will just disappear like an overdue library book. And you certainly should never, ever beg for their attention. That’s giving them power, and we do not hand out power like free samples at Costco.
Final Thoughts
Ghosting is, at its core, an act of disrespect. It’s a sign of someone’s emotional immaturity, and frankly, you deserve better. People who care about you don’t just disappear. They communicate. They show up. They treat you with the respect you deserve.
So, if you’ve been ghosted recently, take a deep breath, straighten your crown, and remind yourself:
You are fabulous. You are worthy. And you are so much better than someone who can’t even handle a basic conversation.
Now, go forth and live your best, ghost-free life!
With lots of Love and sass
